OK, I had been waiting to see if I actually fixed the problem before I made a post of the results. I am confident that I got it figured out, and I thank you all for you help and support
So lets start at the beginning. The day before all of this started happening the car just died at a stop light and would not start at all. Finally got it started and drove it home. So at this point I'm thinking possible main relay. I get in it to go to work the next day, and nothing, but crank, crank, crack. So obviously the stress level just escalated by ten fold.
I get down under the dash, hoping that I can at least bang on the main relay and get it started to where I can get into work, and order a new one. Tap on it, nothing. Ok well let me swap whatever round relay is next to the fuel pump relay and see if that works. VROOOM, and were off like a bat out of hell, in case it dies again.
Get to work, order a new FP and Main relay. Take out the existing fuel pump relay and lay it to the side. Takeout the un-known relay (that was originally the FP relay) and lay it to the side. Then pick up and re-install the original good relay. Then start my drive home, and the fan starts acting up as described in the previous post.
So I start poking around doing some of the suggestion made, and after reading FairTax4me describing where the relay is, I think wait a minute. Lets start from the beginning, none of this started until, blah, blah, blah. Go out to the car, turn on the fan (it was working at that time) un-plug mystery relay and boom, flat line, no fan. So I must not have been paying attention when I replaced it with what I thought was the original, and ended up replacing it with the bad FP relay. I still had it, so I re-installed the true original one, and we have been groovy ever since
As far as the lights, I diag'ed it to be loose tabs at the bulb connector. I took a small flat head screw driver and bent them smaller, so they would clamp more securely on the bulb, and were all good there as well.
Thanks so much guys for helping me through this, and just being able to bounce ideas off of you all. Like I said, I hate, and am not good, with electrical, you want me to tear down an engine and put it back together, and have it start, no problem. You need me to figure out why your car stalls at 3500 rpm's while going up hill, and turning left...BIG PROBLEM
So thanks again.
Edited by Mugs, 03 September 2013 - 11:18 PM.