The car has 140,000 miles on it. When I got it at 136,000 miles, it didn't have this problem. At first I thought it only did this while going from throttle to coasting, but now it seems to do it no matter what. And if I try to physically hold it into 3rd/4th gear, it grinds and makes ugly noises when it tries to pop out. I appreciate your help, but you are not giving me much hope. Right now, I am trying to learn how to drive without uses 3rd and 4th too much. I have already tought myself how to drive with a bad IAV ... giving it gas when coming to a stop.
Thanks again.