Well, all ended up well. I had one hour available today so rather than using it to go buy a breaker bar or more spray, I hit it with the grinder and drove it out. New bolt in tomorrow from dealer. After the two hours messing with getting things apart, took all of 15 minutes to remove and overhaul the axle (new grease, boot, everything else good) and button it all back up. Thanks for the good advice!
Also did stabilizer links and new bearing hub on the back, once the wheels are back on I'll go see if everything is quieted down now.
I have a feeling I'll have some air in ABS HCU and may have some quirky work to do to finish the system bleed... Probably a thread in here on that.