Ok, so the E in 4EAT means electronic, right? Now does that mean that ALL shifting is electronically controlled? Would that include the shift from Park to Reverse or Drive? Anyone know? Anyone have and idea?

the gear selector mechanically moves a mechanism bolted to the passengers side of the transmissions (can be reached from under the passengers side of the car). the position of this mechanism determines what gear you're in. so if it's not lined up properly (mechanically) it can cause issues. but the shifting of gears is all electronically controlled based on the position of that thing...can't remember what it's called. i do seem to remember it has plastic tabs of sorts on it that aren't the most reliable looking pieces in the world. but it's been a few years since i've had a good look.