My 86 hatch's hi beams are on constantly right now I have the wiring schematic and it shows a relay but I can't find It I found the headlight relays under the dash below the steering wheel but not the hi beam one any help would be appreciated thanks 84gl

The negative for the highbeam is probably grounding out somewhere. The headlights actually receive constant positive power, and the negative is what's switched. Completely backwards from the norm.

Sounds like you already found it if we are talking ea-81 hatch.

The 2 and only 2 lighting relays are side by side.