there is nothing evil in his writing - he simply does not have time to explain every detail to someone that is new to this. Yes, he can be very blunt, and often seems rude.. most of us here understand this.
Simple line is this.. you bought a car that had problems and had been sitting for a long time which adds to the list of problems. Simply buying and replacing parts that you "think" are the problem will not fix it .. you need to do proper diagnoses and determine exactly what the problem is.. being this car is prior to OBDII, that makes it a little harder, but it can be done. But without properly diagnosing what the problem(s) are, you are simply throwing money and parts at it, hoping it fixes it (this is what is meant by "fixing with Visa").
As for the valves on the drivers side being open when setting timing marks, yes, it is normal and doing exactly what it should be doing. One has exhaust valves open, the other has intake open.. Passenger side will have both fully closed.. When setting the timing on a 4 cyl with a single timing belt, you need to have all 4 positions set correctly or it wont run.
4 stroke engine = 1 - intake (intake valves open, down stroke), 2 - compression ( valves closed, up stroke), 3 - combustion (valves closed, down stroke), 4 - exhaust (exhaust valves open, up stroke)
and one last thing... you claim you are living in South America, but you have your location listed as being in Florida.. so which is it? Not exactly being honest here, are you? Last I checked, Florida is not part of South America.